Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Sex for Sissies

Last week i received the following message on my Tumblr Blog, A married sissy, from an anonymous follower:

"Hi, I read your blog regularly and really enjoy it I was wondering whether you think you might ever have 'normal straight sex' again? and If you miss it?"
Since i couldn't respond to the anonymous questioner privately, i suppose he or she expected a public answer on my tumblr. blog.  i've thought about it for several days because it's a very intimate and personal question and decided just this morning to answer it her, with a link to this post on the other blog as well.

i made the decision to post the answer this morning because coincidentally, Jake asked me a very similar question when we met for coffee this morning.  We got to talking about some pretty personal things, among them our sex lives with our wives when he asked how often i had sex with Diane, sex meaning regular male-female intercourse.  i feel bad because i lied to him.  i told him we had sex about once per week, sometimes more, sometimes less.  i also volunteered that i performed oral sex on her more often, since it was something she enjoyed, and that my estimate of regular sex once per week was probably a little on the high side.

Jake doesn't know that i'm a cuckold and that Diane gets her enjoyment of "normal straight sex" from her boyfriend Brian.  He also doesn't know that it's been a very long time since i've had this type of sex with Diane.

Before i answer the question, i want to tell you about something that happened about a month ago when i was pleasuring Diane.  She had just had a very powerful orgasm, one that was more intense than usual.  While between her thighs, i became very, very aroused at how excited she seemed; more aroused than usual.  As her orgasm began to subside, i had a strong urge to make love to her like a man does.  My penis was hard, stiff and felt larger than usual.  i wasn't about to force myself on her by any means but felt like gently inserting myself into her very, very well-lubricated vagina.  i got up from between her thighs, knelt between her legs and held my penis against her vaginal opening and looked at her with a smile.  Diane had other ideas....

"Hey! Hey! Hey!" she said with a grin of her own as she gently pushed me away, "What do you think you're doing?"

i really wanted her, if for no other reason than to feel the warmth of her vagina envelop my penis, knowing that her lover was there on a regular basis.  i stammered a bit and said "i just thought i could make love to you just a little."  It sounded so stupid after i said it.

"You know better than that" she said.  "Now be a good sissy and lick me again."

It made me even hornier.  i did lick her again, this time the orgasm taking a little longer but in the end, she seemed to enjoy it just as much.  As i licked her, i thought about how she had just dismissed me.  When her orgasm began, the humiliating manner in which she had  rebuked my efforts and told me to return to my licking duties was too much for me.  i came at the same time she did and messed the sheets of the bed.

Just a few moments later, after i submissively apologized for messing the sheets, she said "I don't know what's gotten into you.  All this aggression and lack of discipline.  Maybe you do need a chastity belt."  i don't think i'll end up in chastity because Diane thinks they're too much work and She hasn't expressed an interest in them.

As a sissy, i do get a fair amount of sex.  But the sex is always on Diane's terms, or when i'm with Jake, his terms. i provide them with sex and in turn, they also provide me with pleasure when they see fit.  i'm allowed to masturbate in front of them and with Diane, She sometimes enjoys stroking me softly until i cum.  i've also had orgasms while Diane takes me with Her strap-on, and those are very enjoyable.  That's the extent of sex for sissies, and it's probably as it should be.

Will i ever have "normal straight sex" again?  i don't think i will.  It might happen, but i think it's unlikely.

Do i miss it?  Yes, i do miss it.  However, i don't miss it nearly as much as i once did.  My needs to have "normal straight sex" seem to diminish the more i get into the married sissy lifestyle.

33 comments:

  1. A Very Honest answer
    A little sad , but honest
    TY

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    1. Steve,

      Thanks for your comment. It is honest and perhaps sad to some. i've accepted it.

      hugs,

      sissy terri

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  2. An interested readerAugust 22, 2012 at 1:46 PM

    I'm with Steve here. Appreciate your honesty and think it's sad. I also can't see how this can continue. Good luck though. I really do hope it all works out.

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    1. Interested reader,

      i'm confident it will work out. My acceptance of it all is important. Diane continues to express Her love for me, and that's even more important.

      hugs,

      sissy terri

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  3. Maybe a chastity belt would help you. It might help you keep your mind straight about your place.
    Good luck.

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    1. Anonymous,

      Perhaps it would, but i'd prefer not to wear one :)

      hugs,

      sissy terri

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  4. Terri,

    Pretty intense stuff. A great example of the power of denial. You're fortunate in many ways that Diane isn't a fan of chastity. It can be quite a "strain."

    RW

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    1. RW,

      You're right. i love Your blog BTW. Much different than mine, but excellent!

      hugs,

      sissy terri

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  5. Hi terri,
    Here's a thought. No longer having "normal" intercourse is the situation that so many people who are alone in this world live with every day. You, on the other hand, have two people who care about you and help you be who you are. You have the joy of intimate human contact with these two people. I would say you are very fortunate.
    marissa

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    1. Hi Marissa,

      Your note points out how fortunate i am. Although, being denied what i once had access to makes it a little different. But yes, i am a very lucky submissive.

      hugs,

      sissy terri

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  6. Hello terri,

    your way to write is so visual and sensual. I can understand your feelings in so many ways. I'm not a cuckold (yet), but I'm kept in chastity (with locked cage) and I think my beloved wife is not even thinking about letting me masturbate or cum like a male at all. Strangest thing is: even if she takes the cage off and even when I had the chance to masturbate... I didn't, I couldn't.

    What I found out about my "Sissy Sex experience": I can't take any sexual action without her permission. Not even when I'm alone... I even feel the need to tell her about things, texts, pictures that turn me on.

    One would think this is humiliating - to me it is by far the best sexual experience I had. Sometimes I miss "classical male-female sex" - but I'm not sure if I could enjoy it any more.

    yours,
    Sissy

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    1. Sissy,

      Yours is a very lovely note and i certainly can relate. i am finding that my own urges for classical male-female sex are not as strong as they once were and, when i do get the urge, if i were allowed, i wonder how much fun it would be. It might only serve to show that i'm not really cut out for it anymore.

      hugs and kisses,

      sissy terri

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  7. terri,

    This could possibly be one of the best examples of your true relationship. You show the weakness of a sissy that is overcome momentarily and wants to perform as a "man" You lovely and mistress Dian, puts a stop to it immediately and reminds you of your sissy status and puts you back to licking as a sissy should! This again shows the superiority of women and how sissy searves

    kissies,
    kelli

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    1. kelli,

      Thanks for your note. Excellent points about how i "momentarily" had a lapse in judgement but fortunately had an understanding Wife who got me back on track.

      hugs and kisses,

      sissy terri

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  8. It sounds like your Mistress is moving her control up a level.

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    1. Michyle,

      Thank you for commenting. Yes....she is, and continues to do so.

      hugs,

      sissy terri

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  9. I am made love to as a woman and intercourse is out of the question. She does not want it. I have no need to masterbate because I have been trained to have an internal orgasm as a woman does. It took lots of practice to get here. I am a happy sissy wife
    Marilyn

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    1. Marilyn,

      You definitely sound femininely fulfilled. i am happy for you!

      hugs and kisses,

      sissy terri

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  10. As others have said, I appreciate your honesty, very brave of you. It seems that Diane really knows what you need! That's a good little subservient sissy!

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    1. badside,

      Thanks for being appreciative, like others, of my honesty. i don't often express myself as clearly as i would like, but i try to be honest. Diane is quite effective at understanding my needs.

      hugs and kisses,

      sissy terri

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  11. I sometimes wonder what I would do in your situation .Would I truly be happy to only be the Fuckee & no longer be the Fucker ? My wife knows I`m a sissy who needs to dress & submit .I am very submissive & submit to humiliation without hesitation, I crave it ! I would welcome most scenarios that involve me submitting & serving a man. The thought of me being dominated by a man in front of my wife turns me on more than any fantasy I have. But once I cross that line there is no turning back. She knew of my submissive nature but was very surprised when she found out I was a Sissy ,it took her a while to accept . I think in my situation if she knew I wanted to be a Sissy with a man ,she would never look at me the same. I want a man to make love to me as if I were his woman while I`m my true Sissy Girl self. I would like to tell my wife how I feel but don`t think she would ever look at me the same. I want to hold ,orally serve & anally accept a man`s throbbing appendage as a woman .I dream about getting spanked & punished like the weak helpless sissy I truly am . If I told her that, she would never think of me as a man ever again. If I was assured in some way that she wouldn`t leave me & continue to love me ,I would consider telling her.
    I think you are very lucky to have the relationship with Diane that you have. I would be very happy to be in your situation ,having the woman you love understand your needs as a Sissy. I think it would be wonderful to discuss what I was going to wear on a date or show her the lingerie I want to wear for him & get her opinion.
    It sounds like she loves you very much as her Sissy wife. I don`t think she thinks of you as a man any longer .She knows you enjoy being the girl with a man & there is no turning back. You will always be a sissy in her eyes & will always have a need to submit to a real man. It sounds like she needs a strong dominant man herself & you no longer fit that description. Don`t look at the negative because you have a lot of positive going for you .We can`t have it both ways as a sissy, that is just a fact. I may cross that line one day & give in to the urge & confess all my sissy secrets to my wife. I could regret it if she doesn`t accept the true me .Be happy sweetie ,there are a lot worse things in life.

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    1. Submissive hubby,

      Thanks for a wonderful and well-thought-out note! i've reread it a few times and you bring up excellent points. i do think that in your case, your wife might secretly suspect your bisexual desires. i'm not an expert by any means, but i think that wives whose husbands crossdress always have that thought in the back of their mind. i don't think she'd be shocked if you told her. She might not like it, but i don't think it would come as a big surprise.

      Thanks again for your comment!

      hugs and kisses,

      sissy terri

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  12. I would be mad , that once in a while I can not have sex with my wife and the other guy does, what's up with that.

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    1. Anonymous,

      Thanks for your comment. i suppose it depends how submissive you are, and the type of lifestyle you lead, on how angry you would be.

      hugs,

      sissy terri

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  13. Let me weigh in on this from the a Femdom perspective and from someone who cuckolds their husband. Your days of regular sex with Diane are over. She's never going to see you the same way again. And even if she did let you have sex with her, it wouldn't be enjoyable for her and because of that, you wouldn't like it either. It would probably just show your inability to please her like a real man.

    Enjoy what you have and most of all, appreciate it. You should actually thank her for not letting you follow through on your ridiculous urges the other day. I think she'd appreciate that.

    Ms. Carol

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    1. Ms. Carol,

      Thanks so much for Your comment. It's very succinct and to the point. i never thought of thanking Her for what She did, but thanks to Your advice, i will.

      Respectfully,

      sissy terri

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  14. WOW....that is good advice you gave her. It cuts straight to the truth, no beating around the bush. I would love advice from you. Better yet maybe you could convince my wife on the positives of having a Sissy Cuckold Wife at her disposal. Your Sissy Hubby is very lucky to have you.

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    1. Submissive hubby,

      It was excellent advice wasn't it????

      hugs and kisses,

      sissy terri

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  15. terri- Thanks for sharing. The mental picture of you wanting to have regular intercourse with Diane, and her denying you with those belittling comments, is so true and also, yes, kind of hot!
    I know my Wife here rarely wants me to be inside Her -- one good thing about Femdom is I used to get mad if She denied me...now I just accept and do whatever She says.
    Interesting both Jake and the anon guy asked the same question.
    I guess we're all going to be getting less, or no, regular sex in the future.
    Sara

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    1. Sara,

      The following part of your comment really got me to thinking:

      ..."her denying you with those belittling comments"...

      Yes, the comments in and of themselves were very erotic but humiliating. The way She did it put me in my place immediately. It stopped me dead in my tracks and put me back into deep sissy subspace.

      hugs and kisses,

      sissy terri

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  16. Terri- Very interesting post. I echo what many others have said, in that you are very lucky to have such a loving and understanding wife to help fulfill your sissy desires.

    I sometimes long to be a sissy, shaved and feminized. My girlfriend has caught me crossdressing (after the fact) and was very put off by the whole idea. I think if I came out and told her down deep I wished to travel into "sissy subspace", she would call me sick and possibly leave me. So again, I think you are very lucky.

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  17. something I've been wondering for a while...

    well, it doesn't seem like there is any communication between your Wife-Mistress and your dom bf...surely there shouldn't be any jealousy issues at this point? Wouldn't be to her best interest to have some say and some control in your activities with Jake?

    Not to mention taking it to the next level with your path of submission.

    And then there's Brian. Is he eventually to be told the truth of the situation? Be brought into the 'play'?

    It just seems to me that all concerned (you, your wife, jake, Brian) are kind of...well...missing out by keeping all of these relationships so solidly isolated from each other when a more open, polygamous would be happier and more rewarding.

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  18. As a female dom that had a sissy husband,(divorced), I know her side of the equation. She loves you for you, but needs the love of an Alpha male, sexually, which you cannot provide. I haven't read all your blogs but my ex- loved it when I feminized him to fit his personality. As a feminized sissy he knew his job was to please me orally and he did that rather well. To my knowledge, when he was properly dressed he never had thoughts of male/female relationships, only to please his Mistress as a feminine personna. Almost all his orgasms came from being "fucked", not doing the "fucking". His adoration and desire to please were unwavering and truly began to enjoy his female self to the point that he now is living 24/7 as a female, albeit divorced and alone. He even wants SRS to be a "complete" woman and I wish him well. There are times when his desires overwhelm him and he comes to me for relief, which I allow him, as he worships between my thighs, (en-fem of course). I'm sure there are other times when he is sexually pleased by a male, but he never got over serving a dom woman, and it would not surprise me that even after his surgery, he will lean toward finding another woman to serve.
    Perhaps what is lacking when you have such feelings, is you are not feminized enough to lose those "male" desires...

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